Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Signing Off For Now

Tonight our computer gets packed up to go out of town with Jon.

On Thursday the movers will start packing up our house and we will move into a hotel.

On Friday we turn the house over to the new owners.

Next Thursday Morgan, Zach & I will fly to California.

Jon will join us about 2 weeks later. He will be out of the Navy and we will officially be off of the east coast.

Its going to be crazy! Wish us luck!
I'll update again whenever I have internet access.

Bye for now!

Happy belated Birthdays!

Happy Birthday, Daddy!
Morgan & Zach are lucky to have such a great Dad! We love you!!!

Happy Birthday, Beth!
See you soon!

Happy Birthday, Uncle Nick!
We had so much fun with you last week! Hope to see you again soon.

Saturday, August 19, 2006

Squeaky Clean

Zach had his first bath last night. He really seemed to like it. He didn't cry at all when he was in the water. Of course, he didn't like getting out and drying off in the cold air.

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Friday, August 18, 2006

Zachary's Birth Story - Part 4


Figured I'd better finish this before I totally forget...

So Zach was born. It was painful but quick and for that I was thankful. But then the really miserable part started. Doctors and nursing digging their knuckles into my tummy trying to contract my uterus. Doctor turning me into a hand puppet to dig out blood clots. Stitching up a second degree tear. Birth was painful, but at least you get something out of it. This? Was just painful. Unbelievably painful. This was the moment I really started wishing for an epidural. Apparently, it was the same things they did to me when Morgan was born but of course I didn't feel any of it. It just seemed like everyone was being so rough and had no compassion or sympathy.

That's when it occured to me that trying for a "natural" birth in a place with a 90% epidural rate may be doomed to be unpleasant. If there is a gentle way to do thing, the staff will not have experience with it. And they will probably just be annoyed that you are fussing and moaning when all of those reasonable mommies with their epidurals are keeping quiet and letting them go about their business.

When I talked to my sisters on the phone shortly after Zach was born I told them to never have an unmedicated birth. "Get the sweet sweet drugs!", I told them. Upon further reflection I've refined my position somewhat. Here is my advice now:
*Set yourself up for success. If it is very important to you to have a natural, genle birth, you need to have health care providers who support this decision. You may have to go outside of your insurance plan to find the right doctor/midwife/hospital/birth center.
*Be prepared. Its probably worth it to take a childbirth class. Lamaze, Bradley, Hynobirthing, something. I read books about all of these methods, but its hard to remember in the heat of the moment unless you've actually practiced them.
*Get help. Several friends and aquantances suggested that we hire a doula to be our advocate in the hospital. I scoffed at the idea. I wish I had considered it more seriously. When things start moving very quickly, it would be nice to have someone not directly involved to help things go your way.

Ultimately, I think I would choose a natural birth again. One HUGE difference between this time and Morgan's birth was the recovery time. This time, I felt 95% back to normal in less than a week. Four months after Morgan was born I still felt some pain. It is much easier to push correctly when you can feel what you are doing. But I no longer regret having the epidural and other pain meds with Morgan. It was the right decision at the time, as was the decision to pass on the medication this time around.

Finally, I've learned to look at birth like I look as weddings. You spend an awful lot of time planning for it and you get a distinct picture in your mind of what it should look like. And when the moment comes, there are things that may be out of your control and it may or may not go as planned. Whether it was a perfect experience or a disappointing one, birth is just one moment and what is really important is what you do next - parent your child.

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Wednesday, August 16, 2006

When Morgan was a newborn, there were certain sounds that we could always count on wake her from the deepest sleeps. Sometimes it seemed that she could sleep through world war 3, but open a bag of chips 2 rooms away and she would instantly be wide awake. (Maybe this was forshadowing her snacking habits?) Zach has his sounds too. Don't think you can get away with reading a magazine while trying to feed or rock the baby to sleep. With every page turn he cranks his weak little neck around to see what the hottest celebrities are up to this week.
The other sound that gets Zach all excited is, unfortunately, Morgan's voice. Every morning she'l come running into our room jabbering about something. "Shhh", we'll say. "The baby's sleeping." "I wanna talk loud-ee [loudly],please?" she whispers. "No, talk softly." I WANNA TALK LOOOOOOUUUUUUD-EEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Baby awake.
But, really, even her indoor voice keeps Zach up. It sets up a vicious cycle every nap and bedtime. Morgan has to sing herself to sleep and insists on leaving her bedroom door open. Zach can't settle down when he hears Morgan singing so he cries. Then Morgan can't sleep because "baby bein' too loud and angry". And on and on.

Sunday, August 13, 2006

Important Milestone

Morgan ate an unsliced apple today. Her first. As you can see, she's quite proud.

Saturday, August 12, 2006

One Month

Its hard to believe that little Zachary is already one month old! It has gone by so fast! This month, Zach has:

  • Learned to nurse with some proficiency. He does, however, like to sabotage my attempts to be discreet by randomly and without warning throwing his head back and exposing me to the world.
  • Gained almost 3 pounds and over 2 inches and has almost outgrown some of his 0-3 month size clothes. Want to place bets on how soon he will pass little Morgan?
  • Proven himself too powerful for generic diapers. Luckily, Luvs (the cheapest name brand) seem to be holding.
  • Figured out that he should sleep at night and stay awake during the day.

Yeah, one-month-olds aren't very interesting. Next month should be a busy one. Little guy will go on his first plane ride and meet lots of new relatives.

Monday, August 07, 2006